Teaching Toddlers to Sit During Mealtime: Strategies That Work

Mealtime discipline for toddlers can be a challenging task for many parents. However, with the right strategies and mindset, it can become a more manageable and enjoyable experience for the whole family.

Setting Strict Rules Doesn't Always Work

Some parents, like my sister-in-law, use strict rules about mealtime behavior, such as 'to eat you must sit at the table and wear a bib.' This approach may temporarily prevent mischief, but it can backfire, reinforcing the idea that they can get away with less desirable behavior. When the bib is removed and meal time isn't happening, the child may become even more insistent on being untethered and unsnappied during meals.

Additionally, allowing food in inappropriate places, like on the floor while playing, can further confuse the toddler about where meals should occur. Imagine the chaos if a child is feeding themselves in various locations instead of at their designated high chair or table.

Letting Toddlers Have a Say

One of the best ways to handle this is by allowing your toddler to participate in the decision-making process. Sitting with your child and demonstrating proper table manners can set a good example. If a child attempts to leave the table, gently remind them that it's not time to go yet, and encourage them to have a few bites.

Maintaining a relaxed and patient attitude is crucial. Force-feeding or getting stressed can escalate the situation and make mealtime more of a battleground. Remember, picky eating is often just a phase, and if your child is otherwise developing normally, there's no need to worry.

The Importance of Hunger

A hungry child is more likely to sit at the table willingly than a child who isn't hungry. Make sure your toddler has plenty of time to run around and play before mealtime so that they are genuinely hungry. Avoid giving them a sippy cup or any other snacks shortly before meals, as this may decrease their appetite.

Once your child is sitting at the table, ensure that the setting is one that fosters good behavior. Position them in a high chair to give them a sense of freedom, or sit with them to establish a routine. If your child finishes their food, let them know it is okay to go and wash up before playing. This gives them a clear understanding of the end of mealtime and encourages them to stay seated.

A Balanced Approach

There will be days when your little one picks at their food and other days when they gobble everything up. The key is to focus on their overall health and dietary intake rather than on specific meals. If your child is generally eating well throughout the week, there's no need to panic over occasional lapses in mealtime behavior.

Teaching your toddler to sit at the table is a gradual process, not an overnight change. By setting clear expectations, using positive reinforcement, and maintaining a consistent routine, you can help your child develop good dining habits.

Remember, patience and consistency are key. Teaching toddlers to sit during mealtime can lead to a more pleasant and structured dining experience for the entire family.